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  • Four Ways to Deal with a Bad Boss

    Or, they left the situation/job/career/company. Or we did. That’s a last resort, but you may get there unless the situation improves.

    So if you’ve had it with your collective bad bosses, here are four ways you can deal with them.

    1. Speak Up

    It’s amazing how many people just sit and tolerate bad and even offensive behaviour.

    The very first thing that you have to do, with bullies or bad bosses (or both), is to speak up. Tell them in no uncertain terms what behaviour you find hurtful, degrading or just plain awful.

    Speak up and tell them that you do not like this behaviour and, in as respectful a manner as you can muster, ask them to stop and to treat you with respect.

    Then wait for their response.

    Not just their oral response, but whether they actually change their behaviour. That’s assuming that their first response is not to scream at you, or even worse to threaten to fire you.

    If that’s the case, then at least you know where you stand. But don’t be surprised if they go away, think about what you have said, and actually improve their behaviour a little. If not, proceed to step 2.

    2. Reclaim Your Boundaries

    Even in this difficult job market you still have rights, no matter how many times bad bosses or supervisors try to tell you otherwise.

    You have the legal right to work in a safe and healthy workplace, and if it’s not then you have a right to complain and ask that it be improved.

    You have the legal right not be sexually harassed or interfered with any way at your place of work, and even if your company doesn’t have a policy on this (but they probably do), there are laws that will protect you.

    Even more than your legal rights, you have the right to be treated with respect and dignity, and if you’re not then you need to reclaim your boundaries.

    No one has the right to treat you disrespectfully, but sometimes we let people, especially our bosses, act differently towards us than we should allow.

    Part of the onus is on you. Re-create your safety zone if someone has violated it, and don’t let anybody cross over your personal red lines. If they are, then move to Step 3.

    3. Ask for Help

    Sometimes we think that we have to solve problems, particularly workplace problems, all on our own. And that’s true sometimes.

    Then there are times when we’ve tried all that we know and the situation just doesn’t get any better. That’s when we have to remind ourselves again that it’s okay to ask for help.

    Help in dealing with bad bosses can come from a variety of sources, including moral support from our friends and co-workers. A problem shared is a problem halved.

    But sharing isn’t enough to change the situation. For that you probably need to go over or around your boss. It could be possible to ask for help from your human resources department, who sometimes can offer to mediate.

    More than likely it means going to your boss’s own supervisor. That can be a difficult thing to do, and it should only be attempted when you’ve tried and exhausted all other avenues.

    That person is likely aware of the bad boss situation already and may have some advice or suggestions to offer. If that route doesn’t work then you may have to go to Step 4.

    4. Think About Leaving

    This doesn’t mean threatening to quit, which you should never do unless you intend to carry that threat out.

    But if you can’t make the situation at work better, then you need to take some time and think about leaving your current work arrangement. Even if it’s your dream job in your dream company, bad bosses have a way of ruining a good thing.

    Weigh the pros and cons of leaving and talk it over with your family and close friends. Then if you decide that the situation is intolerable for you, make a plan to leave your current job at some fixed point in the future.

    That could be six months or a year, but just by setting a date you will take the pressure off. Don’t tell anybody at work about your plan, but work towards it, including finding a safe landing place for you and your career.

    You can always change your mind if things get better, but if they don’t you need to look after yourself.

    Courtesy: Mike Martin

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  • Five Tips for Better Skype Interviews

    Working as a freelancer over the Internet is convenient, but you can be up against a lot of competition. It’s critical that you present yourself well and come across as a competent, professional individual.

    You can follow a few simple tips to help you improve your interview skills over Skype.

    1. Dress for the Occasion

    Start off by putting yourself in the right mindset for the call.

    This doesn’t necessarily mean putting on your best suit, but you should absolutely wear clothes that make you feel professional and good about yourself. The clothes we wear not only tell others about us, but they can affect the way we compose ourselves.

    It can be comforting to wear what makes you feel most relaxed during a stressful situation, but being too comfortable can mean that you won’t focus as hard.

    You wouldn’t go to an interview in person wearing a wrinkled shirt and jeans with holes in them, and you should hold yourself to the same standard on Skype.

    Starting your interview in this mindset will make you feel more confident and help your brain to focus on staying alert and engaged during your conversation.

    2. Conduct a Trial Run

    As advanced as technology is, there are still some components that can be problematic, and dealing with these problems can be a hassle even when you’re not feeling particularly stressed. Take care of as many as you can before they become a problem.

    Before you even make the Skype call in to your interviewer, set up a time when you can call a friend and check to make sure everything is working correctly. Use this opportunity to make sure your microphone is in good, working order, and that you can hear the other person well.

    Even if you’re already familiar with Skype, it’s a good idea to take this opportunity to check on your vocal clarity and overall microphone setup. You want a good balance of sound without much background static or interference.

    If this is your first time using Skype, take the time to become familiar with it now. Learn how to control the volume, exchange files, and so on.

    3. Speak Clearly and Project Confidence

    Your voice is your tool in these call-in interviews. It’s the first way any potential employer will evaluate you, and they’ll be asking themselves if you sound like you’re stumbling over your words or having trouble speaking clearly.

    Take a few minutes before your Skype call and do a few vocal warm-up exercises. This can be anything from just reciting a passage from a book, or practicing saying any words you may have difficulty with.

    It would be a good idea to drink plenty of water or warm tea with honey to help make sure your voice is free of any roughness.

    Pay attention to the words that you’re saying. Enunciate, speak up, and give each of your words proper weight to keep your sentences from running together.

    4. Have Notes on Hand

    As with so many things, preparation is the key to a good interview.

    Since you’ll be having a conversation over Skype, you have a chance to do something you can’t in a typical interview: have notes. Write out any difficult questions they might pose and take some time to figure out what your answer will be.

    This gives you a great chance to present yourself as someone who knows exactly what you want and how to communicate that. Confidence and clarity are huge selling points in these conversations.

    Read over your notes a few times and keep them at hand if you need to take a look, but don’t read directly off of the page, as most people can tell when someone is reading a prepared speech. Having notes is just to make you feel comfortable as to act as a tool for reference.

    Lastly, make note of any questions that you want to ask during the call so you remember them.

    5. Rehearse

    Practice is the most reliable way to ensure success.

    You can’t know every question that a potential employer will throw at you, but you can probably guess at a fair few of them and get comfortable going over general points of discussion: how much work you’ll do, what your hours will be, and how much you want to be paid.

    Get comfortable talking about yourself, highlighting your good points, and so on.

    You can either rehearse with a friend reading you test interview questions, or you can easily do it by yourself. It might be a good idea to record yourself during these test sessions so that you can listen to them later and see how you’re coming across.

    Practice any difficult points until you get it right in your head and by the time you have your interview, you won’t have to worry about stumbling on your answers.

    Source: WorkAwesome

  • Five Election Fraud Documentaries to Watch

    Here are five must-watch documentaries about election fraud and yes, you will know that it is not only Pakistan where elections are rigged.

    1.Hacking Democracy (2006)

    This is a ground breaking documentary investigating allegations of election fraud during the 2004 U.S. presidential election. A group of concern citizens heading up watchdog organizations investigate the 2004 election in the wake of these allegations on the 2000 presidential election which ended up decided in the Supreme Court.

    These ordinary citizens investigate voter machine hardware and software security holes in systems used in numerous states including Ohio, Florida and California.

    They demonstrate with the help of a computer programmer how easy it is to change the numbers tallied on Diebold voting machines that count ballots. They are forced to the extreme of picking the trash at a Florida county warehouse to discover ballot tapes with numbers that mismatched the official election authority records, giving George Bush a lead in the numbers.

    2. Bush Family Fortunes: The Best Democracy Money Can Buy (2004)

    Shown on the BBC, this documentary discusses how the Bush family has used its wealth and power to manipulate U.S. policy as well as the Bush-Bin Laden ties. Here you will find the hard-hitting reports that have been seen in films like Michael Moore’s Fahrenheit 9/11 and used in Greg Palast’s best selling book.

    3. Unprecedented (2000)

    “Unprecedented” discusses corruption in vote counting as well as intentional vote manipulation in Florida during the 2000 presidential election, which George W. Bush won.

    If you haven’t watched this film, there is probably much that you don’t know about what really happened in 2000 and how the result of the election was decided by political connections.

    4. Defending Democracy in America

    Blacked out or dismissed as ‘conspiracy theories’ by corporate news outlets, reports of massive vote fraud in the 2004 presidential election circulated on the internet and through independent media. As the January 6th, 2005 deadline for a challenge to the Electoral College vote drew near send delegation of concerned citizens and an award-winning documentary team went to Ohio and Washington, D.C. to get the facts.

    “Defending Democracy in America” relays the overwhelming evidence they found of a stolen election and a small, diverse group of committed people – from the street and the elite – defending democracy against overwhelming odds.

    What if it can be proven that George W. Bush didn’t win the election of 2004 but rather lost by several million votes?

    5. Uncounted (2007)

    An explosive 2007 documentary that shows how the election fraud that changed the outcome of the 2004 election led to even greater fraud in 2006.

    This controversial feature length film by Emmy award-winning director David Earnhardt examines in factual, logical, and yet startling terms how easy it is to change election outcomes and undermine election integrity across the U.S. Noted computer programmers, statisticians, journalists, and experienced election officials provide the irrefutable proof.

    “Uncounted” shares well documented stories about the spine-chilling disregard for the right to vote in America. In Utah, County Clerk Bruce Funk is locked out of his office for raising questions about security flaws in electronic voting machines. Californian Steve Heller gets convicted of a felony after he leaks secret documents detailing illegal activities committed by a major voting machine company. And Tennessee entrepreneur, Athan Gibbs, finds verifiable voting a hard sell in America and dies before his dream of honest elections can be realized.

    “Uncounted” is a wakeup call to all Americans. Beyond increasing the public awareness, the film inspires greater citizen involvement in fixing a broken electoral system.

     

  • Police detain Pomi Butt after vandalism

    GUJRANWALA: The alleged chief culprit of an attack on the caravan of Pakistan Tehreek-i-Insaf (PTI), Salman Khalid Butt aka Pomi Butt has reached the Sabzimandi police station here to surrender himself to the police, ARY News reported.

    According to details, Pomi Butt reached the police station along with his elder brother and PMLN MPA, Imran Khalid Butt. The alleged culprit said that he was not present at the spot, by the time a clash broke out between the workers of the two parties.

    Butt claimed that he has arrived to the police station to clear himself.

    Police told that a case has been registered against 10 people, who were involved in the clash.

    Earlier, the Chief Minister Shahbaz Sharif had ordered for the registration of a case against the culprits involved in attacking the container of PTI chief, Imran Khan.

  • Five Ways to Deal with Anger at Work

    Five Ways to Deal with Anger at Work

    We all get frustrated at work and knowing how to deal with anger is not always at the top of our to-do list. There’s not enough time and there are too many things to do.

    There are also too many things that can go wrong, and quite frankly, too many people that just drive us crazy. But getting mad at work is almost always a mistake.

    So too is holding that anger in. So what do you do when our internal kettle is boiling and we think we are going to explode?

    Here are five ways to show you how to deal with anger at work.

    1. Take a Time Out

    Do you remember when you were a kid and your parents or teacher would tell you to count to ten when you were angry? The reason they did that was because that ten seconds would give you a break, a time out from your anger.

    It was psychological, but it was also physical. When you slow down, your heart stops beating as fast, and this in turn slows down the delivery of adrenaline to your blood system. Adrenaline is what makes you flushed and red in the face and also what ignites your “flight or fight” response.

    So when you get really angry at work, give yourself a ten second time out, and if that doesn’t work take a ten minute break. Walk around the building, walk around the block. Do something, anything, that will create some space between you and the dangerous emotion of anger.

    2. Breathe

    When we get angry, our whole body tightens up. It’s part of that adrenaline flow that is helping us to get ready for flight or fight.

    If you look closely at someone else who is angry you might also see that it looks like they are holding their breath. That’s another natural reaction that your body has to anger. You don’t actually stop breathing, you just take very short or shallow breaths. This type of breathing however, only adds to your anger and feelings of discomfort, because it reduces the flow of oxygen to your body and your brain.

    You can’t think straight when you’re angry or when your breathing is limited to a few rapid pants. Stop and focus on your breathing. Take three long breaths, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Then watch as your body and breathing return to normal, and as a result your anger will subside.

    3. Call a Friend

    Too many of us have all gotten the same message from our parents, teachers and superiors over the years: Deal with your own problems; you don’t need help; you can do this on your own. The idea that they were giving us was and is a good one — learn to be independent. But in practice it is not so simple.

    There are many situations in life and in work that we need help with, and feeling angry or overly emotional at work might just be one of those.

    Repeat this message to yourself if you are one of the people who was told to stand on your own two feet: It’s okay to ask for help. It’s particularly okay when you are angry at work to pick up the phone and talk to a friend. Sometimes just the act of talking will relieve the pressure, or they might have other suggestions for you. You don’t have to always do it on your own.

    4. Go Home Early

    Sometimes you just can’t take it anymore. Your anger is raging, you are at the end of your rope, and you are planning to make a noose to hang someone with. That’s when you may have to pack up your stuff and head home early for the day.

    This may not always be possible if you are a pilot or a brain surgeon, but for most of us, we can slip out a little early if we really have to. Some days you may really have to because the alternative is that you stay at work and explode.

    You don’t ever want to do that. Those of us who have vented inappropriately to customers, co-workers, or even our boss can tell you that. You just don’t want to do that. Take your stuff and get out of there. If it costs you a few bucks it may still be worth it in the long run, because you will still have a job to come back to tomorrow.

    5. It’s Just a Feeling

    Even as the blood is rushing to our head, and our eyes are seeing red and fire all over the place, and we the feel that our insides are going to erupt like a volcano, we have to remember that anger is just a feeling.

    We don’t have to do anything just because we feel angry. We don’t even have to say anything, although we can feel the bile and venom building at the back of our throat. It’s just another feeling.

    The amazing thing about anger is that it will subside. We don’t believe that when our head and our heart are pounding, but it will settle down and go back to wherever it came from. Sometimes we just have to wait it out, be patient, and let it go. It’s just a feeling.

    Courtesy: Mike Martin

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  • Terrorism a threat to regional, international peace: Pervaiz Rasheed

    ISLAMABAD: Federal Information Minister Pervaiz Rasheed opined on Thursday that North Waziristan had become a nursery for terrorists and their elimination became necessary for country, region and world peace, ARY News reported.

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  • Model Town incident: Eyewitness records statement before Judicial Commission

    LAHORE: Recording her statement before the Judicial Commission, an eyewitness of Model Town incident on Tuesday said that police shot a woman on her head before her eyes, ARY News reported.

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  • CNG stations in Sindh to remain closed for 3 days

    KARACHI: Due to a change in schedule, CNG stations in Sindh including Karachi will remain closed for three days instead of the previously scheduled two days this week, ARY News reported.

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